You Need To Know THIS About The VS Fashion Show
It’s the most wonderful time of year. The Rockefeller Tree is up, store windows are decorated, lights are sparkling, and tis the season of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. I have to admit that I once used to watch the show regularly and wanted to be an Angel. But mine was the time of Giselle Bündchen, Heidi Klum, and the ultimate Angel, Tyra Banks.
Back then, being a model meant that you were on the cover of a magazine or walked the runway once a season. You didn’t see them every day. Now in the age of social media, girls are hit-over-the head with images of perfection and self-enhancing filters on the regular. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a young girl today. By the way, it’s women, not men, who make up the majority of the Victoria’s Secret viewing audience. Kendall and Gigi are everywhere. And even if you don’t read the tabloids, their Instagram accounts remind you of how amazing their lives are and how amazing they look.
I met Gigi right before she hit it big. I remember thinking she was pretty, athletic, and kind, but she was just another girl to me. It was only when I saw her name trending that I started to see her through rose-colored glasses. Other people thought she was stunning, including Zayn Malik, so I started to think that as well. We, as women, tend to be influenced by how others think.
Instagram, magazines, and TV only capture people at their best moments. It’s not real! We show people versions of ourselves the way we hope to be seen, and not who we actually are.
If you plan on watching the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show tonight, enjoy it but please be reminded that it took these girls hours to get camera-ready. It will take you less than five minutes to get into your pajamas, wipe off your makeup, and pour yourself a glass of wine after surviving another day at work, to watch this show.
Do not compare your worst self, to the amplified version of their selves.
I want to also remind you that this is a SHOW. It’s called the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show for a reason. Shows use lights, makeup, costumes and other tricks of the trade to tell a story. The story that will be told tonight, is one that has been told for ages: Women are sexy and have fun in matching underwear sets and skinny is the only kind of beautiful.
Both are big, fat fairy tales.
First, I don’t know a single woman whose bras and panties have ever matched. And if they have, it was probably when they thought they were putting on a (private) show. There we go again, a show.
Also, skinny is not beautiful. Skinny is one type of attractiveness, which is temporary and objective. Notice that no one admires how small or boney a model is. We usually admire the lines that define their abs, legs, or arms. Those lines come from muscles. And how do you get muscles? You lift weights. You get stronger.
On the contrary, beauty is everlasting. beauty is measured in the quality of one’s strength, spirit, and kindness. And standing firm in your badass-ness!
If you choose to watch tonight’s show, enjoy the colorful costumes and the musical performances from Bruno Mars, The Weeknd, and Lady Gaga. I love me some Bruno and the Weeknd.
However, if you’re going to throw yourself a pity party and feel bad about yourself, DO NOT WATCH!!! Instead, find the motivation to do something that will make you feel strong, kind, smart, sexy, and/or graceful. Go for a run, practice yoga in your sports bra, deliver meals to the homeless, or take a boxing class at Shadowbox. Choose to do something that will give you a sense of accomplishment and make you feel good.
This will remind you that you’re pretty great, give you clarity about anything you’re unhappy about, and give you the motivation to change your circumstances.
If all else fails, strip down to your underwear, put on some high heels, dust some glitter on your body and strut down your hallway.
Because you, my darling, are bad ass and deserve to be praised.